Relationships in the year 2005

Horoscope? Fiction or Fact?
I'm generally not a superstitious person. I dont believe in all those mambo jumbo BS like "For those born in the year of Dog-you'll do well coz you chase chicken / For those born in the year of the Dragon-you'll get a Big tummy coz of overdose of chicken meat etc." I do read horoscope next to the comics section but wont remember what I read by the time I flip to the sports section.

However, at the earlier part of this year strangely enough, something out of the ordinary caught my attention when I read the horoscope on newspaper during CNY. It said, "Year of the Chicken -relationships will fail, hearts will break, lovers will part". I was thinking to myself, Cool!! Looks like there'll be more single girls around, which sometimes I regularly thought that they dont exist (single girls that is). Either that, or M'sia has a serious problem of oversupply of guys and undersupply of girls. Back to the topic anyway, so I just took notice of that but didnt really think it would really be true. I mean..what do these horoscope writers/ fortune tellers know anyway? If they're fortune telling abilities are so accurate, why cant they get rich overnight by foretelling tomorrow's 4-digit winning lottery number?

Or so I thought...
Hell, it's only the 3rd month of the year. I witness relationships failed. You have no idea how freaking weird it was for me. IRL guy friends suddenly showed up on Saturday nights to hang out with the gang, when for 2 years they had their "Saturday passport" revoked by their girlfriends. I made friends with 2 bloggers who broke up not so recently with their boyfriends. Stumble on even more blogsites who's latest entry are about them in the recovery process etc. What the hell just happen here? Is it normal for these kind of "TurnOver rates"? It's like boyfriends/girlfriends is like clothes that have gone out of fashion and needed to be donated to the nearest Salvation facility to make space for newer clothes. Okaaayy, I may not know about the juicy details bout how those breakups exactly happened, but the coincidence of the "Year of the Chicken thingy" and these stuff happening are really freaking me out.

I dont how/what I can do. I'm no Love Doctor, but I'm your friend. For my guy friends, I dont think I need to post any advise for post-breakup. You guys got over it faster then me writing the title of this entry. For my gal friends, you're the more emotional species. I know I'm a guy, but I'm a sensitive one at that. You know can talk to me. I'll even give you the pleasure of pretending that I'm you ex and you can unleash your anger at me. Temporary Verbal assaults only please. No, seriously. But dinner's on you tho. Anyway, for those unlucky ones still suffering from heart breaks, the following poem is for you. I got it from a friend. Help tons after my breakup with my girlfriend of 4years.

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you,
be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him,
feel honored that love came and called at your door,
but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.

Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,
even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another,
and he falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave,
do not try to reclaim it or toss the blame. Let it go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do
is accept it for all its MYSTERY when it comes into your life.
Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love,
and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.
They cease to be someone who generates love,
and instead become someone who seeks love.
They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift,
and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love
has its own time, its own seasons,
and its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it,
or reason it into staying.
You can only embrace it when it arrives,
and give it away when it comes to you.

But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover,
there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.
Love always has been and always will be a mystery.

Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...

IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN.